Quotable Quotes: Solo Navigation

Here's another great quote from one of the Origianl Oldgirls, the Infamous LoveBabz, from her post, Solo Navigation, concerning the ending of a relationship, and a return to singlehood.



"I do not feel alone in the world. I haven't felt alone in a long long time. My loveship is ending. Try as I might, there is no resuscitating something that is dead. Hanging on to the bitter end is bitter. We try to salvage love because we can recall when it was good; or when we were willing to let things fall by the wayside, because it (those little annoyances, quirks and personality flaws) were seemingly small and unimportant to the overall health of the loveship. Now those things are enormous and makes us crazy to no end.

I don't mind the solo navigation. I even like it a lot! The only feelings to consider in my decisions, are my own. Oh, I am not anti relationships, quite the contrary, I am more open to loveships more than ever. There is a great deal of value in connecting with someone, being committed to someone else and caring about their well-being. I want that fully in my life again. Its not enough to love someone. There has to be shared language, shared goals, shared forgiveness and shared joy. Nothing can thrive and grow under oppression, sadness and insecurity."




I like that word "loveship". It's so sophisticated and high class, lol.

Long quote... but a good one, chocked full of some things I've alway considered when love is ending.

I think I was telling my sister, and realizing my ownself, when looking back at relationships that were ending, that you're not necessarily mourning the end of the thing.

Afterall, you might be with a knucklehead, and it's time for him to go.

(Shoot... YOU might be the knucklehead in the relationship.)

We are not mourning the end of the relationship, but moreso, all that it encompassed, the emotional investment made, the time spent, and the loss of a time when things were good in the relationship. And I think once we realize we can't get any of that back, it might be easier to understand, let go, and accept moving on.

The final line of that quote contains 3 strong words: oppression, sadness, and insecurity.

No, nothing can grow, or even exist, in the midst of such.

Heck, I look at friendships that have ended, and one of those was in the mix. ESPECIALLY that insecurity part. Geez.

Strong quote from one of the Originals...

Really stuck with me and gave me something to think about.