Monday, June 18, 2012

Monday... The Food for Thought edition


Once again.

And the weekend...

It went by in a bluuuuuuurrrrrrrrrr....

*lee clearing fog from head*

I don't think I did anything productive this weekend. Well, household chores, but that was it. I didn't even go anywhere. Sigh.

That's a good thing. I didn't spend any money. Glory!

On my mind today... Last week was an interesting week. It was eyeopening. I had talked to my sister a few weeks ago about our grandmother, and how she needs to be taken to the doctor, but she doesn't want to mention it to anyone. And other folk are "Busy". Whatever the heck that means.

I work, but I live only a few miles from her. If she could somehow talk her into calling me, I could take off and take her. I didn't hear anything back about it. (I refuse to get caught up in family stuff... a bunch of mess, I tell you.)  Grandma called me out of the blue a week ago, and I told her to use me as a back up plan for doctor visits.

I've had to talk to her before about if she need some help like with house repairs and such, to let me know so that I can come up with the money. She won't do it. Heck, she ain't even used the debit card I gave her since March. O_o.  I decided I'm not going to argue with her.

I guess she is a lot like me: I don't like to bother people AT ALL. I suppose I get that from her.

Well she called me and needed to go to the doctor. Turns out her appointments are on the same street as my job. This particular appointment was only a block away from my job. So I took her.

It gave me pause. I remember this woman as sprite and active. I still think of her as in her 50s. But she is 83, now. She's forgetful. She's talkative. I had to help her into the car, get her buckled in. She left her appointment card at home, so we had to figure out which doctor she had to go to. (At least we had the right building).

WOW. It just made me think of how much I take for granted. I've been put down by illness before. And I think about that sometimes, who will help me the next time (if that happens), that happens.

But this was different. She older now, and doesn't care to drive outside the neighborhood. Her eyes aren't the best. And she needs that help. And it takes much patience. I don't think some of my relatives have that, so I understand things a little better. I have to treat her like a toddler. As long as I remember that, I am good.

I think someday we will all need that help. I don't have kids and such. And I think about who will help me. It crosses my mind from timet to time.

I thought much about that this weekend. And I decided that that is a future issue. Deal with it then.

Sow seed now.

That is my answer to many things right now. Don't worry about tomorrow and its harvest. Sow seed for it today. Now.

So I hope she will call me for future help. I hope she saw that I didn't mind, and I wasn't tripping or anything. I made sure she got her prescriptions turned in, etc.

I did a good thing.

And that is a good thing.

Quote of the week.  My boss drops off her old copies of Jet in my cubicle every week. CowgirlCre likes to peruse them. And random folk like to read them when they stop by. O_o

Anyway, the June 11th issue featured Idris Elba. We oohed and aaahed over that one!

He said something interesting. 

"My father always told me that a fool at 40 is a fool for life." (p. 26)


We got a kick out of that.

But I understand what he meant.  I look back sometimes. And I can see that my 20s were the years where I was doing crazy stuff, and didn't know my head from a whole in the ground. The 30s were a time when I was getting myself together and things were coming together.  I've only been in my 40s for a short time, and I see right now that whatever mindset I have is probably sticking. However, I am open to change... it's just a little harder these days. I have to work on it.

So I can understand what he says. If you a fool at 40, then you probably gonna stay that way for life.

Let's face it. You OBVIOUSLY haven't been working on yourself and your personal growth.

I know some folk like that. And I am not talking about people with regular issues. We all have our idiosyncracies. (Lord knows I do, and if you can deal with me, you are a true friend indeed).

I'm taking about folks with serious problems. And their problems infect everyone they come in contact with.

And it makes you think... Why is a 50 year old person wreaking this much havoc in their lives and the lives of others? Shouldn't they have outgrown these habits by now? Shouldn't they be past being messy by that age?

I mean, wreaking havoc. The people in their lives, the pets and the cockroaches are all exasperated in their presence. 


So we thought that was a good quote, to the point we wrote it on a sticky note and put it on my cabinet.

I don't want to be a fool for life. No sir.

I told my sister that it is a fortunate thing to have the THOUGHT in your head that

"Gee, this issue of mine... I need to work on that."

She's only 30.


There's a huge difference between someone who spends ten years working on something and someone who doesn't spend any time working on it.

One of those people makes progress towards the solution.

I will let you figure out which one.

It's akin to the LadyLee Postulate #1254: "It's like walking from Atlanta to California. Gonna take some time, but take steps in that direction! You will eventually get THERE!"

Yes indeed.

I am off to the dentist this afternoon. I am having a final round of dental work. Woo-hoo!

I get to see the very fine Dr. Watson. 

And hear him walk in the room and holler "Let's do this, girl!"

I get to feel him hit me on my shoulder and say "Why you frownin', girl? I'm hurting you, girl!?"

*lee giggling hard with a drill in her doggone mouth O_o*

LOL! He makes me feel like we are on our way to a New Edition concert!

LadyTee still talking about "I don't care how he look... He can look like George Burns for all I care. As long as he fix my grill... whatever, man."

It don't hurt that he's good eye candy, honey!

Hopefully I won't have to see him for a LONG time after this!

Ya'll have a great week!

On purpose!


  1. Anonymous3:19:00 PM

    SOW SEED NOW!!!!

    I will be marinating on that all week...heck the rest of the year!!!

    Thank you ma'am

    yesterdays sermon "GET UP" cant step into your purpose if you don't get up....(walking to California part reminded me)

    Dee in S.D

  2. I can't bear the thought of being treated like a toddler when I'm old. I do not want to burden my children like that. I just can't.

  3. I hate to see people being so impatient with the elderly. Maybe because when I was growing up, I was around a lot of my elders who had to be treated like a toddler.

    Sow seed now....I like.

  4. I think about this often, both from the POV of having to be the likely caregiver and one day, the one being taken care of. As my mother's only child, I won't have anyone to share the burden of her elder care with. And Lord only knows who will be around to take care of me. "Sow seed now." Exactly that.


  6. @Dee in San Diego... It is much to marinate on. I am still marinating on it.

    @Chele... face it Chele. One day you will be old and moving just a tad bit slower than usual. I know they will have a limit on drivers age by then. Gotta get around, need just a little help.

    Grandma isn't a big burden. She cooks and cleans for herself. Can pay her bills. I think the hustle and bustle of the outside world is too much for her.

    I don't think it is a burden factor. In other countries, people take care of their elderly relatives. We in the USA are more of a "me, myself, and I" type of country. And at the same time, that type of thing has to be prepared for, and we are not really adequately prepared.

    @Southern Black Gal... Most of the elderly in my family have been self sufficent up until the late 70s and 80s. But I have had to see them taken care of once they get elderly. And no one wants to be a bother. I think that is the major problem right there.

    I want to yell at her kids and say "What's wrong with ya'll? Why can't yall help her???" O_O. But it may be too overwhelming for them.

    I told my sister that I do MY part. What is the part I can do? And I do it.

    @La... I think much about all that too. Can't worry about tomorrow. Do good deeds now. You reap what you sow. Sow good seed TODAY, right now.

    Mama A... That's right, Mama!


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