Lupita Nyong'o's Speech at Essence Event.

I thought this was excellent. I wish I would've seen or heard me this when I was a little brown girl. Every dark skinned woman I know has felt this way.




(Here's the youtube link if it doesn't show up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPCkfARH2eE)

Here is the full text of the speech...


I received a letter from a girl, and I would like to share just a small part of it with you.

Dear Lupita, it reads.

I think you are really lucky to be this black, but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you are appeared on the world map and saved me.

My heart bled a little when I read those words. I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me. I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin. I got teased and taunted about my night shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the Miracle Worker, was that I would wake up light-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin, that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of the mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And everyday I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I had been the day before.

I tried to negotiate with God. I told Him that I would stop stealing sugar cubes at night if he gave me what I wanted. I would listen to my mother’s every word (sitting right there) and never lose my school sweater again if he just made me a little lighter. But I guess God was unimpressed with my bargaining chips because he never listened. And when I was a teenager, my self-hate grew worse. As you can imagine, happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought I was beautiful. But that was no consolation, of course she’s supposed to think I’m beautiful.
And then, Alec Wecht came on the international scene, a celebrated model. She was dark as night, she was in on the runways, and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful. And that made it a fact.

I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman that looked so much like me as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome, and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me that it wasn’t. It was perplexing, and I wanted to reject it because I wanted to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside me. When I saw Alec, I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty.

But around me the preference for light skin prevailed . To the beholders that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty. It doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume. It was something that I just had to be. And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What actually sustains us, what is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you.

That kind of beauty inflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsy [from 12 Years a Slave] into so much trouble with her master. But it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit, even after the beauty of her body has faded away.

And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside, that there is no shade in that beauty.


That is EXCELLENT. There is something there for every woman, as we all have had challenges in our self-esteem.

Something for Every woman. No matter what race or skin tone she may be.

Yes there is.