Thursday, December 29, 2011

Food for Thought: My Bed and My Mind

A couple of months ago, I was watching television, and someone said something very interesting. I quickly found a piece of paper and wrote it down.

"Your mind is just like your bed: you have to make it up everyday, and be careful who you let sleep in it."

That has been on my mind for a couple of months.

We've always been told to make up our beds in the morning.

I've never seen the point of it. Afterall, I'm just going to get back in it later that evening. Right?

But a bed is usually the center of the room. And a made-up bed makes a room look neater. There have been times when the room can be trash, but if I make up my bed... that is the start of me getting the rest of the room cleaned.

So I can say the same about my mind, my thinking. This has been a year that I can see clearly that if I make my mind up about something, then things straighten themselves out. If I am a bit on the fence about things, well, things tend to stay in their ruffled state.

Just like a bed that hasn't been made up.

The other part of the quote... be careful who you let lay up in your bed.

That is a little clearer. Moreso with experience. I thing the older we get, the more careful we are about who we are sleeping with. When you have been hurt one too many times, that becomes of high priority.

Usually someone who sleeps in your bed, the person you are physically involved with, not only has your body... but your heart also.

So of course, it is important to be extra careful about that.


But I am more interested in the mental analogy here.

I am becoming more cognizant of who I let rent space in my mind. Most importantly, who or what is taking up my thinking? And is it a mental drain or not.

I tend to be very extreme. I either deal with you or I don't. No fakery from me. And trust, if I sniff a whiff of any psychological Jedi mind tricks and games - you know what I'm talking about... you know how people can be - I probably won't have much to do with you.

Why? Because I don't like being in mental bondage to people. I know I will be thinking about your trickery later, i.e., you will be renting space in my mind. Ain't good for me, an Oldgirl who is trying her best to stay on top of my anger management isshas.

And this is a year that I've had to evict some folk and issues. Hate to be like that, but you know my way of thinking: if you're not being a blessing to me, and I'm not being a blessing to you... then uh... you know.

Anyway, that's what that quote had me thinking about. I am working on not meditating on bad situations and people who are not good for my life. I am cognizant of making up my mind about things. Of course their are a plethora of things that I haven't made my mind up about, and for the new year, I want to get on top of making my mind up about those things.

For the past couple of months, I have made my mind up about my day. My morning confession has been:

"This is a day the Lord has made, and whether it's a sunny or dreary, I WILL rejoice and be glad in it. This is a day that has been planned for, and but not seen. Today will be a great day for me. I will make a positive impact today."

I have my mind made up about that. Yes indeed. And it has helped me appreciate my days more, and not take anything for granted. Any good thing that happens, I am glad of it. And I notice good things more.

So... do you have your mind made up or are you wavering concerning certain issues and people?

Are you careful about who and what rents space in your mind?

Who's laying up in your bed today... that don't need to be there?

Best question of all:

Did you make your bed up today?


  1. Good post! I tend to be the same way...I'm either in something all the way or not in it at on the fence for me..

    The times when I've found myself on the fence about something or someone, this to me is an indication that perhaps I need to let it go.

    I have to wholeheartedly be your friend or not. If I have some resentments or unresolved feelings or anything like that I tend to start backing away and detaching myself because I just don't know how to be fake, and I'm also not a small talk sort of person. It's hard for me to do idle chit chat and stay interested. I get bored as well. Nowadays I guess I'm looking for more meaning in things that I say and do, and the people in which I interact with.

  2. Nope. I did not make up my bed today. When I wake up and decide that my day is going to be great, it is. No one does foul mood can touch me and the day goes like clockwork. Instead of moaning and groaning about needing to get up and not being able to stay in bed or in a certain mind state I need to get up, be thankful and set my purpose. It will benefit everyone I come in contact with one way or another.

  3. LOL! ...if I sniff a whiff of any psychological Jedi mind tricks and games... :D Funny! But I feel ya!

    I like your confession...will steal it!

  4. I can so relate. I had to start listening to my body when my heart would say otherwise. If I hold resentment or have not forgiven the guy I am intimate with, then being intimate is physically painful. Its that crazy...or maybe not. Took me a minute to realize it, but it has been my key to resolve it or remove him.

  5. Yes, I made my bed up today. :) Great post! I'm not one who deals with fake folks either. I don't like a lot of negativity and drama, because that's not how I roll. I think about those I can trust and those I know who only have my good interest in heart. Those are the ones I choose to share things with and allow them to rent space in my mind.

    If I feel you have ulterior motives, I won't deal with you. If I have to deal with you because we know some of the same people; I'll deal with you when I have to and no other time, but you are far from my mind, though.

  6. OMG! You've said what I've been saying for YEARS about a bed being made and it's presence in the bedroom. Thank you x100 for echoing.

    This post hits me in many ways; all good and I'm thankful for reading it at this very moment. It's given me what I need to continue my move forward and release myself from the madness of the past 22 months.

    Thanks Ol' girl ;-)

  7. Ummhmmm

    *gets off computer to make up my bed*


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